Abuse & Violence

Abuse is taught, learned. Unlike violence.
Violence is innate, born, unlearned, nature.

I say this because one needs to understand the difference, to
understand the subject.

It is a defence and survival mechanism, to become violent at times,
to protect our families, our selves, to hunt, to kill to feed. This
guarantees our survival, our blood line, our race, our species.

The concept of abuse is in opposition of this survival. Destroying
ones self, ones life, ones family, one's world...

Everything we do, no matter how small, effects the world around
us...

To an abuser this gives the control over the world, they lack when
it comes down to controlling themselves. It is a power struggle,
usually coupled with addiction.

Violence is necessary at times. Abuse is never necessary.

Violence can be part of abuse, It is but one of the many faces of
abuse, and doesn't have to be a part of abuse at all for the abuse
to occur.

Today Abuse runs rampant and has too many faces, I could write a
book about the many faces of abuse and addiction. It has so many
faces we could not possibly name them all here. They are the same
Abuse and Addiction. I'll probably will write that book, at some
point.

Yet, we can learn to recognize it by it's definition. To misuse or
mistreat any one or any thing is abuse. This takes on many forms
and levels. Verbal, Mental, Physical, Sexual, and as I had said on
may levels., in the mind, to the spirit and in the body, as well as the
different degrees of it that can be inflicted, from minor to severe.

Addiction is abuse at it's finest, this is where someone has
become so use to pain or abuse, that when they are not feeling the
pain they cease to exist without it, they then develop a craving for
it or need, so they have to do something to get their pain fix they
need to feel alive, even though the whole time they then tell them
selves the are numbing their pain, while they cause everyone
around them pain . Misery loves company. It comes down to which
is the greater pain, the pain of the abuse or the pain of not existing.
For more on this subject click on my page on Addiction.

What causes abuse ?

As I said from the beginning it is taught, learned over time.
Parenting, Family, Society, Poor Education, Corporations,
Government, Capitalism, even the Church. These are the ones to
blame, and then we must look in the mirror, what are we doing to
change it.

So what do we do and how do we change things ?

God, Truth, Higher Education, Mentoring, Ministry, Fellowship,
Empathy and Understanding.            Are all the Key !

Of coarse to stop it we would also have to change the way our
society functions almost completely. Including our government. Or
at the least what is acceptable by it... This would go against
society, who profits from supply and demand...

By teaching ignorance, fear and abuse society creates a demand,
therefore they can provide a supply for services and industry. This
employs a lot of people... Examples : The Sex Industry (one of the
largest industries there is ) and The Never Ending Wars on Drugs,
Terrorism, Gangs and Porn...

The scriptures teach us that the flesh craves it's own destruction ,
and that by feeding our flesh what it craves, leads to abuse,
gluttony, greed, lead to all other sin according to the word.

It is when we first begin to desire or covet, that we begin to focus
on our desire, that we begin to apply all of our energy to obtaining
our desire, making it our center, our God.

Notice in the 10 Commandments

The First is "No other Gods before me"

The Last is "Thou shall not covet"

This is because all other sin lyes in between the two... Buddhist
understand this better than Christians do, admire, desire, covet
something of theirs and they will give it to you. Even if it is the shirt
on their back.

Abuse and Sin are the same. Once we begin to focus on our
desire, our center, or God. We will do anything we must to seek it,
obtain it, serve it, or create it. Industry...

Second Commandment - "Thou shall not make thee any ingraven
image"    How much of our industry is based on full-filling this ?
We even begin to pray for it.

Third Commandment - "Thou should not take the Lords name in
vain"

We begin to spend every day seeking it, obtaining it, producing it,
or doing it.

Fourth Commandment - "Remember the sabbath day and keep it
holy"

We disgrace our families and ourselves.

Fifth Commandment - "Honor thy father and thy mother"

Eventually, we will do whatever we must to obtain it, we will than
kill, cheat, steal, lie...

Sixth Commandment - "Thou shall not kill"

Seventh - "Thou shall not commit adultery"

Eighth - "Thou shall not steal"

Ninth - "Thou shall not bare false witness"

Are all of these things abuses ?
So where does it start and what is at the root of it ?

Desire and Focus

Are these things taught ?

Ask yourself and maybe write down the answers to these next
questions.

What is the focus of the society around you ? If in America what is
Americas focus...

What is the focus of your world or group that surrounds you ?

What is the focus of your family ?

What is the focus of your marriage or relationship ?

What is your partners focus ?

What is your focus, your desire...

What will you do to obtain it ?

Domestic Violence is when abuse or violence takes place in our
home or family.

This occurs when the focus or the desires are in conflict with one
another in the home or family. When desire or focus is placed on
whatever (Power, Control, Greed, Sex, Drugs, Football) all are
drugs, if they override everyday living and others feelings... When
we make this the center, our God.

Because this is taught, it is handed down from generation to
generation. Even the Christian Church sells/tells you to pray to
their idol Christ Jesus {the anointed thief} first. Placing him before
God in your prayers. His Hebrew name was YESHUWA' of
NAATSARET the haMASHIYACH (Yeshuwa = "He Will Save" - the
Messiah = "the Messenger) his message = "...Yeshuwa' passed
before them saying: 'May YEHVAH deliver you..." (Matthew 28:9)

YEHVAH = GOD

"The scribe said to Yeshuwa: "Well said, Teacher; You have truly
stated that HE IS ONE, AND THERE IS NO ONE ELSE BESIDES
HIM" (Mark 12:32)

Despite YEHVAH's first commandment or Laws.

Proving that abuse is rampant throughout words, languages,
translations, history, teachings, doctrines, powers, authorities and
yes, even the Churches of the world.

Words & Abuse can go hand in hand.

Because violence is a natural defence or survival skill...
"Violence begets violence"

When we abuse someone with violence, it is their natural instinct
to use violence in defence to protect themselves.

When we abuse someone mentally or with words, demeaning
names, threats, ... over a period of time, breaking them down,
threatening their physic, their mental existence. Than it is their
natural instinct to defend themselves. You can be driven to
violence, only if you allow it.

Battered Women's Syndrome (click on these pages for more info.)
PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Are but two illness or terms used to describe the results of
violence on an individual who has suffered violence over a period
of time.

There are the common results of growing up in Abuse or Violence.
Such as when children watch abuse they either learn to abuse or
learn to be abused.

Another result is when a child has been abused, neglected or
molested at an early age, having their control taken away from
them... They may grow up with the desire for love or control or
both.

The desire for love may lead to abuse, because by now it may be
what they have come to know as love.

The desire for control can only lead to abuse.

Combine the two desires and well...

It is a vicious cycle.
The cycle of abuse and violence.

How do we stop it ?

We must first recognize it. We then begin by changing our focus,
our desire, our center. We change our teaching, our learning, our
understanding. We learn to act, instead of react.

When we make Love or God our center, and he comes first in all
things. Than we begin to heal and grow.

The word says,
"Love suffereth long, and is kind, Love envieth not, Love vaunteth
not itself, does not act unseemly, seeketh not it's own gain, is not
easily provoked, thinketh no evil, rejoiceth not in iniquity, but
rejoiceth in truth, bares all things, believes all things, endureth all
things, never faileth."

God is love. If you believe in love then you believe in God...
If you don't believe in love, how can you believe in God, and there
can be no love in you.

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You should be aware. Most deaths due to domestic violence occur
when the victim tries to leave.

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